An intimate look into the lives and thoughts of gay and bisexual men who are already married to women, yet undeniably attracted to other men. Their struggle with conflicting needs, desires and loyalties is here told in their own words, not filtered through theories or evoked in brief interviews. Taken from an internet mailing list which allows people to speak freely in anonymity, while encouraging the development of a tightly knit community, these stories feature men at all stages of the coming-out process, sharing their experiences, secrets, pain, shame, anger and hope.